The range hood filter is the part nobody thinks about until the stove smells like last night's supper and the fan sounds like it is working harder for less. Grease collects in the filter first, on the side facing the burners. Keeping it clean is a small job with a clear owner, and most of the trouble comes from the job having no owner at all.

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Check the filter yourself first

Pull the filter out, usually by sliding or pressing a tab. Hold it up to the light. A filter that needs washing looks grey or brown, feels tacky, and may drip when tipped. If the fan is loud, the light has dimmed, or the room smells of old oil while the fan runs, the filter is a likely suspect. Note what you see so you can tell whether it is getting worse over time.

Name who washes it

Pick one person and write the name on the calendar on the fridge, or set a repeating reminder on a phone. Dad may say he has cleaned that filter for years and does not need help. He may be right about the cleaning and wrong about the reminder. Give him the job if he wants it, and keep the reminder yours, so the job happens without a fight.

Wash it the right way

Check the manual or the label on the filter. Many filters can go in the dishwasher, but some metal filters are better washed by hand. Use hot water and a degreasing dish soap, let it soak, and scrub gently with a soft brush. Avoid harsh scouring powders and anything that could strip the finish off the metal. Rinse well, shake off the water, and let the filter dry fully before it goes back in, because a damp filter does not do its job.

Look at the light and the fan too

While the filter is out, check the light bulb and the switch. If the bulb has burned out, replace it with one of the same type listed in the manual. Wipe down the fan housing if you can reach a layer of grease there. If the hood vents outside, check the outside cap for leaves or lint, since a blocked outlet makes the whole system work harder.

What to do tonight

Pull the filter and look at it under the kitchen light. Decide whether it goes in the sink tonight. Find the manual, or search for the model number on the hood's label and read the cleaning line. Set one reminder on your phone for the next time you are cooking at his house, and tell him who has it. Keep the manual in the drawer with the takeout menus, where he can find it when he wants to argue about it.